How to Make Dating Someone New a Priority
Written by: Akua Hinds
December 2, 2020
You know what they say about doing things the same way that you always do and expecting a different result. It really is unrealistic to expect that your life will just suddenly change when you are not deliberately doing anything to lead your life down a different path. If you want to have a more ideal romantic partner in your life, then you need to change the way that you do things in order to attract who you really want in your life.
Believe it or not, the Universe knows when you are ready for love and it also knows when you are clearly not ready. You might believe that you are ready for the right person to walk right into your life, but could it be that you are not as ready as you think you are? Here are some of the things that you will do when you are serious about making dating someone new a priority:
You Start Looking
How will you ever find what you are looking for if you do not get started with the looking part? See, this is something that I think ALL single people who want to change their relationship situations need to know. You will not find what you want unless you take the first step. Think about the steps that you take when you go on a vacation. You do not just show up at your destination and have expectations about how things are going to go. Usually, you make plans well in advance.
For me, traveling is a process that starts weeks or months before I actually depart on my journey. By the time I arrive at my traveling destination, I have already booked my tickets, packed my suitcases with my clothing, identification documents, and other essentials. I also would have already figured out where I am staying and thought about goals for how I want to spend my time on my vacation. Are you creating moments that will help you to reach your relationship goals? The best thing that you can do to help your relationship goals come true is to live your life in a way that opens doors to new love, not closes them. Are you more focused on what did not go wrong in your past than you are about what COULD go right in your future? If so, you are not setting yourself up for success. Focus on the future.
Have an Expectant Attitude
The key to feeling hopeful about the changes you want to see in your life is practicing building your confidence. It’s so important to have an attitude of expectancy because what you think about, you bring about. Think about this; if you see yourself achieving something, you will probably move towards what you see yourself doing instead of moving away from it. The only way that you would move away from your goal is if your goal overwhelms you and you’re not quite ready to pursue it.
When you are ready to move towards your goal, you will be laser focused on it. The thought of you not reaching your relationship goal does not even enter your mind. When you are ready to find your true love, you need to draw a line in the sand and step over it. Whatever that line looks like is up to you, but here are some suggestions. The line means that there will be no more repeating destructive patterns of the past, no more ignoring the truth, no more chasing after the wrong people, no more self-pity, no more tolerating uncomfortable drama-filled situations, no more making excuses.
Let Go of the Past
You will be amazed at how much more hopeful you will feel when you set standards and stick to them. The best feeling in the world with regards to dating is knowing that what you are trying is working. Try this! What do you have to lose? You will lose your fears and doubts when you start feeling more confident in yourself. Be a champion in your life story. Instead of seeing your past mistakes and disappointments as a reflection of your failure, consider that your life is a success story in the making. There isn’t a magic fairy to waver her magic wand and instantly turn your love life into a perfect picture, but you have the power to draw a line in the sand and step over it towards the goals that you know you need to complete if you are going to FEEL complete. Someone has to decide to make the change, and that someone might just be you.
Finding the right person is like finding a full-time job; it requires a lot of time and dedication, but you will feel a sense of relief when you do what is necessary to make your goals come to light. Don’t give up the fight for what you want. Put the time into finding someone new, whether you join a dating website or whether you go out to in person social dating events. Be clear on your why. Treat the relationship hunt as seriously as you would treat a dream job hunt, and you will definitely see results. The only way that you will have the relationship of your dreams is if you tolerate nothing less.