Anyone who does not think that your image lives up to the standards of what should be posted on their Instagram is someone who you should think twice about dating. Would you do it? Would you date someone who told you that they are fine with being your romantic partner, but they refuse to post photos of the two of you on their social media pages because you are “un-Instagram-able?” I couldn’t believe what I was hearing when, a few days ago, I was listening to two radio hosts discuss a man who accepted the fact that his girlfriend of two and a half years was not willing to post photographs of the two of them together because his image did not live up to his girlfriend’s strict social media standards.
Social media can be fun, and it is a useful tool for communicating what you value and to share what is on your mind. Keep in mind, that an individual can certainly live a fulfilling life without having a presence on social media. One does not need to announce their relationship on social media in order for the relationship to be legitimate. However, what you share on social media provides a snapshot of how you want to be perceived. If the opinions of other people are more important to you than what you truly cherish, then perhaps you need to re-think your opinion of yourself.
Associating with someone who does not want to be publicly associated with you is not fun. You will constantly feel as though you are unworthy and incomplete, waiting for the other shoe to drop. Is this really the way that you want to live? True love is based on acceptance and knowing that you and your significant other accept each other publicly and privately. If other people are willing to share photos of their significant others on social media, why can’t you? Why can’t your mate? If you and your significant other choose not to have social media accounts, then that is perfectly fine. However, it is strange to deliberately ban someone who is part of your life and restrict them from being seen with you on public social media platforms.
When you take a look through social media you will see that there are all types of people represented. Each person adds to the social media community. Some people are short, some are tall. Some are big-boned, and some are slim. Some have long hair and some have short hair. You get the picture, and YOU are one of the many people who deserves to represented on social media standing next to the people and things that you love if that is what you choose. There are all types of people in our society. When someone tells their partner that they don’t measure up to their social media standards, they are letting that person know that they either do not fully accept them, or, they are afraid of other people judging and not accepting them.
If you find yourself in this situation of not being seen anywhere on your romantic partner’s social media profiles, do not hesitate to approach your partner and ask what his or her stance is on posting pictures and updates about your relationship. Hear your partner out and listen to both what is being said, and listen to what is NOT being said during the conversation. If your partner gives lame reasons about why they deliberately avoid displaying public evidence of your relationship, then perhaps you need to check out of the relationship. Social media does not reveal everything, but it reveals what people want to display. Your partner’s excuses could be masking unpleasant facts such as the fact that they might secretly be in another relationship, or, they do not plan on being involved with you for very long.
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